Two truths and a lie: the stories we tell ourselves.
There’s an ice-breaker game called Two Truths and a Lie where each participant writes down three stories about herself, two true and one a fib, and the others try to guess which is which. It’s a fun exercise as an ice-breaker, but it points to something I find much more interesting: the stories we tell about ourselves reflect our identity and in turn shape our identity.
- Our stories reflect our sense of self.
- Our stories shape our sense of self.
- Tapping changes how we see and tell our stories.
Our Stories Reflect Our Sense of Self
Imagine that each of us has a library card catalog of stored stories and memories. These stories reflect how we see ourselves and how we see the world. We could easily search through this card catalog and find a story where we were embarrassed, let down, or shamed. Just as easily we can search through this card catalog and find stories of where we felt safe, seen, acknowledged, and lifted up.
When we are feeling better about ourselves, we find better-feeling stories. When we are feeling worse, we find worse-feeling stories.
Our Stories Shape our Sense of Self
Our stories and our interpretations also shape how we see ourselves. You can see the cycle unfolding, with patterns and beliefs affecting each other.
Tapping Changes our Stories
One of the dramatic effects of tapping is that we can change our stories. Or rather, we can change the emotional intensity of our stories, and we change the interpretations of our stories. These changes aren’t forced; they arrive organically as the tapping moves the energy.
- We change the meaning of the story.
- We change the intent behind people’s actions in our experience.
- We change the blame within the story.
- We have greater compassion for all the parts of the story.
- We find our center in the story.
Who’s the Subject of your Story?
When I found this quote researching this blog post, it shocked me a bit. I realized how many of my stories are about something being done to me. What if I started telling stories where I’m the one doing the creating and action?
“To live is to write a story. If you are a strong person, your life story will mostly be written by you; if you are a weak person, mostly others will write your life story!”
~ Mehmet Murat ildan, Turkish Playwright
[Note: I don’t like the words strong and weak, but you get the idea behind the quote.]
When you think of the stories that define you:
- Are they about you as the object, where others are doing things to you?
- Are they about you as the subject, where you are doing things to others?
This week we have access to some experiential throat energy with the 35th archetype being defined by the sun. I invite you play with your stories, do some tapping on some old ones, and create anew!
This week’s podcast continues the theme of tapping on our stories.