Our problems show us what we value. What we are struggling with shows us what is important to us. We all know that the opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s apathy.
One of the biggest limitations in my life has been self-blame; one of the greatest reliefs has been feeling vindicated that what I believe, experience, and even suffer with are all the right path for me.
So often I see folks using EFT to “fix themselves” and this fixing assumes that what they are experiencing is wrong or harmful or limiting. What if what’s wrong with us is actually the door to our greatest delight and expansion? What if on the other side of our pain is the expression of what we value most? What if what feels like a big fat obstacle in our path is actually pointing the way to what we value the most?
For example, I am still struggling with a bit of a temper (I know that’s a surprise to many who read my work … LOL!) … As I just contemplate this issue of temper, I realize how much I value being in harmony with others, feeling understanding of their view and also feeling understood. My temper is the shadow of a powerful gift of compassion and advocacy.
So try this:
Take a breath, or two, or three. Close your eyes (after you read this). Ask yourself, “Where am I less than happy?” See what emotion comes up for you. Gently tap the points on that issue. Ask yourself, “What is the current situation telling me about what I value?” Tap on this new insight and notice a sense of relief and delight and expansion.
Hugs and love to all,