Sometimes the actions and words of others hurt us. We can heal our response to the outside world but once in a while we might be left with some lingering resentment.
Assuming we have already done our inner work and have supported ourselves in honoring the hurt, the best way to release this lingering resentment is to see the larger picture.
Who hurt the person who hurt you? Once we see this chain, or domino effect, of hurt being passed on, we can release the resentment and have compassion for the larger picture. We know that we have indeed broken the cycle.
If you’d like to work on this today, name three people who you feel some tension around, name how they have hurt you, and then list who might have hurt them the same way.
Three people I still resent.
How did they hurt me?
Who might have hurt them the same way?
Family Constellations offers a way to see and name these cycles of people hurting people and carrying that hurt on. By seeing all the interconnections and patterns of the larger system, we can start to transform the energy and release the underlying love that supports all systems. If this is a field you are interested in, there are groups held in many areas as well as private sessions. I offer my own form of this work combined with EFT and call it Family Energetics. My book on Amazon by the same name with exercises you can do yourself.