I recently had the opportunity to tap with a lovely therapist from England, who is in her second year of recovery from breast cancer. She had just had a checkup appointment, and I noticed some tension in her as she talked about the appointment, and rightfully so! As a therapist, she’s already incredibly self-aware of her emotional process and has lots of support. Tapping with her was cleaning up the bits of memories from the past year that were subtly still causing her body stress.
We spent an hour together and cleaned up all sorts of bits around this past year for her. Very specific memories like words said during diagnosis, the feeling of sitting in the waiting room, the visual sights in the treatment room, and specific decisions she had to make. She felt the relief instantly after each round of tapping, memories fading away, and the stress lifting. She’s a dancer, and when she said, “I feel taller,” I could feel her internal relief.
Cleaning up the broken pieces after a crisis
Tapping can be used to clean up after all sorts of events. During a crisis, we don’t have the emotional capacity to tend to all the details; it’s after the crisis is over that we can then clean up the bits.
This image comes to mind as I think about cleaning up the pieces.
Imagine a velvety, soft, plush rug with a beautiful design, a sensual pleasure to see and walk on.
Now imagine a glass breaks, shattering into a thousand pieces throughout the rug. You shake out the rug, but miniscule bits of glass remain, stabbing you only when you step on them directly. You don’t know they are there until they hurt you.
Skilled tapping is very much like finding all the little glass bits before they stab you again.
What to tap on
Questions to ask yourself to find the bits for tapping could be:
Is there a specific image that comes to mind when you think of this event? Rate how vivid it is on a scale of 0 to 10, and tap for it.
Is there a specific sound that comes to mind when you think of this event? Rate how much you still hear it on a scale of 0 to 10, and tap for it.
Is there a specific physical sensation that comes to mind when you think of this event? Rate how much you still feel it, and tap for it.
Is there a specific smell that comes to mind when you think of this event? Rate how vivid it is, and tap for it.
Is there a specific person when you think of this event? Rate how clear they feel in the scene, and tap for it.
Is there a specific scene that comes to mind when you think of this event? Rate how vivid it is, and tap for it.
Do you think of what might have happened and didn’t? Tap on what might have happened.
Do you think of the shock of what did happen? Rate it, and tap for it.
Other ways to get relief
If you don’t like tapping by yourself, or struggle to find the words, tapping along with an audio or video might help. Here are a few podcasts that might help
This also is a time to lean into the help of a good practitioner. Besides myself, you can find practitioners at EFTInternational.
And I’m now offering customized tapping scripts. For a nominal fee, you email me the specifics of your situation, and I give you a page of exact words to say while tapping. I’m still setting up the forms for this, but if you’re interested, drop me a messsage.
Thanks for reading and keep on tapping!